I can truthfully say that I’m guilty of always trying to revive friendships that are dead. It never ends well and I realize now that when it’s dead simply bury it! Don’t let it lay out in the open but dig a 6 foot hole, put it in the hole and cover it with dirt. I’ve learned this from experience that it never works out to try and revive a friendship that’s dead.
If you feel you’ve wronged the person by all means endeavor to contact them apologize and make it right. Then walk away. An apology doesn’t mean you have to rekindle your friendship. Walk away. This is where I’ve made most of my mistakes. I always try to rekindle the friendship and it doesn’t take long to realize why the friendship failed in the first place because nothing much has really changed. If there hasn’t been a change on both sides it’s doomed to fail. I am always working on myself endeavoring to become a better person. I’m a very open and frank person and sometimes this is taken the wrong way by people. I don’t mean harm but I find that I can be a bit harsh in expressing myself. This is definitely a work in progress.
Not one friendship that was dead and I tried to revive has survived and is healthy. There are a couple hanging by a string. The relationships are shallow at best and have no real dept to them. I’d rather not have the friendships at all! I really wouldn’t call them friendships but two people keeping in touch. I’m a deep and emotional person, my friendships are not shallow. I commit myself to my friends in being a support and a confidant to them. Proverbs 27:9 KJV, Ointment and perfume rejoice the heart: so doth the sweetness of a man’s friend by hearty counsel. I don’t tell my friends what they want to hear but I tell them the truth. I’m not going to back you in your wrong, I’m going to tell you that you’re wrong and you need to get it right. That’s what true friendship is, anything else falls short and is unacceptable. Proverbs 17:17 KJV, A friend loveth at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.
Brenda Cares Corner Ministry
Ordained Christian Minister