When He Cheats, It’s Not Your Fault

The first time I found out my ex-husband cheated during our marriage was very difficult.  I say the first time because this behavior continued and I accepted it. How very foolish of me.  My ex was the type of man who rarely took responsibility for his actions because he was the king of the blame game.  Somehow it was my fault that he was a cheater.  I know it was a ridiculous accusation, I found out soon after his infidelity came to light, that he was a cheater that loved the challenge and the chase.  He didn’t have relationships with other women, just sexual relations with them.  He believed variety was the spice of life and he never really took his attention from me either. Some might think he’s a sex addict.  I just think he’s a selfish jerk, that wants his cake and be able to eat it too.  If women let him, he will. I did until I got tired. I deserved so much better but I just didn’t believe I deserved better.

It’s not your fault when someone cheats on you. Cheating is a choice because there is always another option besides cheating.  If you no longer love your spouse than get a divorce.  Extra-marital sex doesn’t solve any issues in your marriage.  It will destroy your marriage and cause damage to your spouse that they will live with for the rest of their lives.  When he cheats, he cheats for many of his own reasons but it is never the fault of their spouse.  If he loves you he won’t ever do anything that would intentionally hurt you. Ephesians 5:25 KJV, Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it.  Ephesians 5:33 KJV, Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.  

This is the first of many articles to come on this topic.  I have so much to share, I was with my ex for 13 years and we were married for almost 11 years.  I am here blogging to share my testimony, not as a victim but as a survivor, a Overcomer!

Brenda Morgan

Life, God and the Bible

Christian Minister

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